Vol 2 #3 – Interview with Poet and Professor Robert Fagles, Not For Children Only, Celebrity Only Child Profile: Frank Sinatra, Is One Enough? Stand Your Ground, Off The Net
Volume 2, Number 3
“SEPARATION ANXIETY ~ NOT FOR CHILDREN ONLY”
“IS ONE ENOUGH”
“DISCIPLINE ~ STAND YOUR GROUND”
INTERVIEW WITH POET AND PROFESSOR ROBERT FAGLES: Mr. Fagles’ translations of Homer’s Iliad and Odyssey were published to worldwide acclaim. Mr. Fagles was an only child who lost his father at an early age and was raised by an extraordinary mother. It was Mr. Fagles’ close bond with her that inspired him to begin translating Homer. I was well acquainted with Mr. Fagles’ work before contacting him for an interview. But I came under his personal spell while watching an interview with him that was broadcast on CSPAN. During this interview Mr. Fagles explained that he was an only child, which he found to be both a blessing and a curse.
SEPARATION ANXIETY ~ NOT FOR CHILDREN ONLY: Dr. Carl Pickhardt outlines issues of separation that affect both parents and their only children. The first anxiety that parents and child probably confront is safety anxiety. Will the child be okay without his/her parents around? One of the hardest parts of parenting is letting go, releasing the child to the risks of decision making, exposing the child to the hazards of life away from home. Parents wonder if the child is ready? Will the child have difficulty adjusting? What if the child gets hurt physically or emotionally?
CELEBRITY ONLY CHILD PROFILE: Frank Sinatra, “The Chairman of the Board”, was an only child whose self-confidence was never undermined. Like many only children, he learned from an early age to rely on his own instincts. He knew that he wanted – excellence and that’s what he got.
IS ONE ENOUGH?: What could possibly affect your life more profoundly than bringing a child into the world? At least for me, the decision to have one came easily. I just always knew that motherhood was going to play an important role in my life. The question of whether to have more, on the other hand, calls for some serious soul searching.
DISCIPLINE ~ STAND YOUR GROUND!: Maintaining discipline with an only child is often easier said than done. It is particularly difficult to set limits for the only child. Like first born children, only children have a way of talking around things and convincing their parents that they know best. As parents of only children, we want to encourage our children to explore their opinions and assert themselves. However, expressing what they want or how they see a situation does not mean that they are always right or that they need to make the final decision. Only children seem to have answers for everything, and often, even as very young children, they present sound and convincing arguments to back up their opinions. When we elevate our only children to an adult status, we frequently empower them more than we should. Dr. Nina Asher helps strengthen parents’ resolve, and advises on how to set limits in early childhood and adolescence.