Vol 2 #4 – Interview with Oscar Winning Actress: Singer Shirley Jones, Dare to Disagree, Setting Limits, Part II, Adolescence, The Dynamic Triangle, Off the Net
Volume 2, Number 4
“DARE TO DISAGREE”
“SETTING LIMITS, PART II, ADOLESCENCE”
“ONLY CHILD FAMILIES ~THE DYNAMIC TRIANGLE”
INTERVIEW WITH OSCAR WINNING ACTRESS/SINGER SHIRLEY JONES: Shirley Jones began singing in her church choir soon after she began to walk. By the time she was 19 she was the star of Rodgers and Hammerstein’s film version of Oklahoma. She was an only child who had never met another only child until she left Smithton, PA for the world of show business. She talks about her life and career and how being an only child has influenced both.
DARE TO DISAGREE: Dr. Carl Pickhardt gives us the second in a series on only children and separation anxiety.Typically, when parents think about separation, the anxiety that comes to mind has to do with learning to tolerate distance and absence from each other, but this is only one form of the problem among many that I see in counseling. This is the second in a series of articles that will explore six common separation anxieties that can occur in only child families.
SETTING LIMITS, PART II, ADOLESCENCE: Dr. Nina Asher offers us guidelines for helping adolescents establish independence with a safety net. Paents of only children often struggle with setting limits for their adolescent children. The older your child is, the closer he/she is to separating from the family. Adolescents test the limits of what they can do in the world outside the family. Your adolescent should now be making certain decisions himself. If you once decided how many desserts your three-year-old could eat, now you are dealing with bigger issues, requiring different limits and less control.
ONLY CHILD FAMILIES ~THE DYNAMIC TRIANGLE: Roger Dillow, LCSW, looks at patterns of behavior in only child families. Only children don’t exist in a vacuum. We can free associate around words often used to describe them: “indulged,” “independent,” “lonely,” “successful,” “social,” etc. Sometimes these associations do apply. It is, however, difficult, if not impossible, to capture one’s personality or account for a person’s behavior without a context. But it is possible to explain some of the what and why of an individual’s behavior based on that person’s status as an only child.
OFF THE NET: Letters and comments by and about only children from around the world